{"id":320,"date":"2020-11-30T15:38:15","date_gmt":"2020-11-30T15:38:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/shag.co.uk\/blog\/?p=320"},"modified":"2026-10-06T11:12:22","modified_gmt":"2026-10-06T11:12:22","slug":"meeting-friends-through-the-internet","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/shag.co.uk\/blog\/meeting-friends-through-the-internet\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Spot a Catfish Before Meeting Someone Online"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><strong>To spot a catfish<\/strong>, look for inconsistencies between a dating profile and what someone tells you, repeated excuses for avoiding a meeting, and <strong>pressure to send money<\/strong> or keep the connection secret. No single photo or friendly conversation can prove someone\u2019s identity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dating without commitment still involves trust. You can take time to get to know someone and decline a meeting without collecting enough evidence to accuse them of anything. The aim is to make a decision you feel comfortable with, while keeping your money and personal information protected.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"union\"><p>FIND PEOPLE NEAR YOU<\/p><\/div><form class=\"registerForm\" id=\"register\" method=\"GET\" action=\"https:\/\/shag.co.uk\/dashboard\"><input type=\"hidden\" name=\"s1\" value=\"blog_shag\" \/><div><div class=\"form-group\"><label for=\"i_am\" >I'm a<\/label><select name=\"sex_seeking\" class=\"form-control\" aria-invalid=\"false\"><option value=\"male-female\">Man looking for women<\/option><option value=\"male-male\">Man looking for men\/option><option value=\"female-male\">Woman looking for men<\/option><option value=\"female-female\">Woman looking for women<\/option><\/select><\/div><div class=\"form-group\"><label for=\"province_id\">Location<\/label><select name=\"country_id\" class=\"form-control selectCountry\" id=\"select_country_id\" style=\"display: none\"><option value=\"13\" selected=\"\">UK<\/option><\/select><select name=\"province_id\" class=\"form-control\"><option value=\"476\">East Midlands - England<\/option><option value=\"477\">East Of England<\/option><option value=\"478\" selected>London<\/option><option value=\"479\">North East England<\/option><option value=\"480\">North West England<\/option><option value=\"481\">Northern Ireland<\/option><option value=\"482\">Scotland<\/option><option value=\"483\">South East England<\/option><option value=\"484\">South West England<\/option><option value=\"485\">Wales<\/option><option value=\"486\">West Midlands - England<\/option><option value=\"487\">Yorkshire &amp; The Humber - England<\/option><\/select><\/div><div id=\"getMessage\" class=\"getMessage\"><p class=\"boton\" style=\"margin-top:20px\"><button type=\"submit\" name=\"register\" class=\"btn\">JOIN NOW<\/button><\/p><\/div><\/div><\/form>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">What is catfishing?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Catfishing means using a false online identity<\/strong> to deceive someone. It can involve stolen photographs or a made-up personal story. Romance fraud is financial exploitation through a fabricated romantic connection; it can begin through dating sites or other online conversations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A person using flattering photographs is not automatically a catfish. Nor does someone become trustworthy because their profile looks ordinary. Focus on their behaviour and whether the information they share fits together.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Warning signs worth taking seriously<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>The <a href=\"https:\/\/www.psni.police.uk\/safety-and-support\/keeping-safe\/protecting-yourself\/scams-and-fraud\/romance-scams\">Police Service of Northern Ireland describes common romance-scam tactics<\/a>, including building a connection quickly, moving the conversation away from the original platform and repeatedly finding reasons not to meet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Be particularly cautious if that pattern comes with an urgent request for money, pressure to keep secrets or a story that changes when you ask an ordinary question. A request for travel money to meet you is <strong>still a request for money<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There can be innocent reasons for a delayed meeting or reluctance to use video. You do not need to decide which explanation is true before saying no to a payment or pausing the conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Check the photos, but understand the limits<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>A reverse image search may show that a profile picture belongs to someone else or appears under another name. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ageuk.org.uk\/information-advice\/money-legal\/scams-fraud\/how-to-spot-a-catfish\/\">Age UK\u2019s catfishing advice<\/a> explains checks you can make and warning signs to consider.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If a search finds nothing, <strong>it has not verified the person<\/strong>. A new, private or altered photograph may have no obvious result. Treat the search as one check rather than a pass-or-fail identity test. Do not contact an unrelated person shown in a photograph to demand an explanation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Ask ordinary questions and keep your own details private<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>You can ask about the interests they mention or suggest a brief video conversation if you both want one. For example: \u201cWould you be comfortable having a quick video chat before we arrange coffee?\u201d They can decline, and you can decide not to meet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Avoid demanding passport photographs, account details or a workplace address as proof. You should not send yours either. A stranger does not need your banking login, security codes or identity documents to arrange a date. Be careful about sharing intimate images or details that identify your home.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A call may help you judge whether you enjoy talking, but it cannot guarantee someone\u2019s identity, intentions or safety. Keep the same boundaries afterwards.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">If you decide to meet<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Choose a public place<\/strong> and a specific time, arrange your own transport and tell someone you trust your plans. You can keep the first meeting short. If the person insists on a private address or a last-minute location change that makes you uncomfortable, decline.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>An example reply is: \u201cI\u2019m happy to meet at the caf\u00e9 we discussed. I\u2019m not comfortable changing to your flat.\u201d You do not need to soften that boundary with a promise to do it another time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Be clear about what you are looking for too. Our <a href=\"https:\/\/shag.co.uk\/blog\/casual-dating\/\">casual dating guide<\/a> covers intentions and first meetings. Wanting a casual date never means agreeing in advance to sex.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">If they ask for money or you have already paid<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.reportfraud.police.uk\/romance-fraud\/\">Report Fraud advises against sending money to someone you have only met online<\/a>, including vouchers, cryptocurrency and supposed investments. Report the request to the dating service. Do not pay to resolve an emergency story or unlock a promised visit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you have already made a payment, <strong>contact your bank as soon as possible<\/strong>. Keep relevant messages and payment details for your report. Report Fraud provides the reporting route for England, Wales and Northern Ireland; in Scotland, report to Police Scotland on 101. Be wary of anyone who later offers to recover the money for a fee.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Being deceived does not make you foolish. Speak to someone you trust and use the official support links above rather than dealing with the situation alone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">You can stop without proving a scam<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>If the conversation feels wrong, you can end it, block the account using the service\u2019s available controls or report concerning behaviour. State the facts in a report rather than guessing who the person is.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When meeting people through <a href=\"https:\/\/shag.co.uk\/\">Shag<\/a> or any other service, keep checks and boundaries in place even when you feel a connection. A good date starts with both people being comfortable with the plan. You are free to leave or decline another meeting.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<div class=\"tmnf_excerpt clearfix\"><p>To spot a catfish, look for inconsistencies between a dating profile and what someone tells you, repeated excuses for avoiding a meeting, and pressure to send money or keep the connection secret. No single photo or friendly conversation can prove someone\u2019s identity. Dating without commitment still involves trust. 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