{"id":627,"date":"2021-03-29T15:12:09","date_gmt":"2021-03-29T15:12:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/shag.co.uk\/blog\/?p=627"},"modified":"2026-10-04T17:32:29","modified_gmt":"2026-10-04T17:32:29","slug":"how-to-get-your-first-date-with-shag","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/shag.co.uk\/blog\/how-to-get-your-first-date-with-shag\/","title":{"rendered":"Your First Online Date: From a Good Chat to a Clear Plan"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>A first online date starts with two people choosing to meet. There is no profile trick that guarantees a date on the day you join Shag, and no reason to rush if either of you would prefer more time. A useful aim is a clear, manageable plan with someone whose expectations fit yours.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This guide covers the move from chatting online to meeting in person. If you are looking for casual dating, be open about that; you do not need to pretend you want a relationship to make an invitation sound appealing.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"union\"><p>FIND PEOPLE NEAR YOU<\/p><\/div><form class=\"registerForm\" id=\"register\" method=\"GET\" action=\"https:\/\/shag.co.uk\/dashboard\"><input type=\"hidden\" name=\"s1\" value=\"blog_shag\" \/><div><div class=\"form-group\"><label for=\"i_am\" >I'm a<\/label><select name=\"sex_seeking\" class=\"form-control\" aria-invalid=\"false\"><option value=\"male-female\">Man looking for women<\/option><option value=\"male-male\">Man looking for men\/option><option value=\"female-male\">Woman looking for men<\/option><option value=\"female-female\">Woman looking for women<\/option><\/select><\/div><div class=\"form-group\"><label for=\"province_id\">Location<\/label><select name=\"country_id\" class=\"form-control selectCountry\" id=\"select_country_id\" style=\"display: none\"><option value=\"13\" selected=\"\">UK<\/option><\/select><select name=\"province_id\" class=\"form-control\"><option value=\"476\">East Midlands - England<\/option><option value=\"477\">East Of England<\/option><option value=\"478\" selected>London<\/option><option value=\"479\">North East England<\/option><option value=\"480\">North West England<\/option><option value=\"481\">Northern Ireland<\/option><option value=\"482\">Scotland<\/option><option value=\"483\">South East England<\/option><option value=\"484\">South West England<\/option><option value=\"485\">Wales<\/option><option value=\"486\">West Midlands - England<\/option><option value=\"487\">Yorkshire &amp; The Humber - England<\/option><\/select><\/div><div id=\"getMessage\" class=\"getMessage\"><p class=\"boton\" style=\"margin-top:20px\"><button type=\"submit\" name=\"register\" class=\"btn\">JOIN NOW<\/button><\/p><\/div><\/div><\/form>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Give the conversation an honest starting point<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Use recent photos and accurate details about yourself. Mention a couple of interests you genuinely enjoy and the kind of connection you want. Do not invent a job, borrow a lifestyle for your profile or claim to love an activity simply because someone else likes it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>An example could be: \u201cI enjoy small gigs and finding a good coffee spot. Interested in relaxed dates rather than rushing into a relationship.\u201d Adapt it to your actual interests. A profile should help someone decide whether they want to meet you, not a character you will have to keep acting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Keep sensitive information private. Your home address, financial details and precise daily routine are not necessary for a first conversation. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.scotland.police.uk\/advice\/internet-safety\/dating-apps-and-websites\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Police Scotland\u2019s online dating guidance<\/a> highlights personal-information risks, fake profiles and requests for money.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Look for a conversation you are both choosing<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Ask about something in the other person\u2019s profile and respond to what they say. Share enough about yourself for them to get to know you too. If you are talking with several people, keep your attention on the conversation in front of you rather than sending interchangeable messages.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There is no ideal number of people to message at once. What matters is honesty about exclusivity and treating each person with consideration. Avoid promising things you cannot offer simply to keep someone interested.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If the conversation is one-sided, repeated messages may not help. For opening-message examples, see our guide to <a href=\"https:\/\/shag.co.uk\/blog\/how-to-text-a-girl\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">starting a conversation<\/a>. If someone has declined or stopped engaging, respect that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Suggest one simple plan<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>When you are both interested, give the invitation a shape: \u201cI\u2019ve enjoyed chatting. Would you like to get a coffee on Saturday afternoon?\u201d If they agree, choose a public venue that works for both journeys and check the opening hours.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You can set a rough duration: \u201cI can stay for about an hour.\u201d That makes the first meeting manageable without implying you must continue elsewhere. Agree the budget before booking an activity and check cancellation terms if a reservation is needed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If the other person prefers to wait, accept it. A video conversation beforehand may help you feel more familiar, if you both want one, but it does not prove that someone is safe or that every detail they have given is true.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Before leaving, check the practical details<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Confirm the place and time, arrange your own transport and let a trusted person know your plan. Keep your phone charged and choose a meeting point where you can leave independently. Public daytime meetings are among the precautions recommended by Police Scotland.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Do not send money for a stranger\u2019s travel, emergency or supposed verification process. If details do not add up or the plan becomes pressured, pause. Our guide to <a href=\"https:\/\/shag.co.uk\/blog\/meeting-friends-through-the-internet\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">spotting a catfish<\/a> covers warning signs to consider.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For a venue that suits the date rather than an impressive-sounding promise, browse the <a href=\"https:\/\/shag.co.uk\/blog\/category\/city\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">city guides<\/a>. Check a venue\u2019s current information directly before relying on it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">A casual date still has boundaries<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Meeting through Shag does not mean either person has agreed to physical intimacy. A profile preference, flirtatious message, paid dinner or previous agreement does not remove someone\u2019s right to say no or change their mind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Be clear about what you are looking for, then listen. If either of you wants something different, you can end the meeting politely. You do not need a long explanation to leave a date where you feel uncomfortable.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"union\"><p>FIND PEOPLE NEAR YOU<\/p><\/div><form class=\"registerForm\" id=\"register\" method=\"GET\" action=\"https:\/\/shag.co.uk\/dashboard\"><input type=\"hidden\" name=\"s1\" value=\"blog_shag\" \/><div><div class=\"form-group\"><label for=\"i_am\" >I'm a<\/label><select name=\"sex_seeking\" class=\"form-control\" aria-invalid=\"false\"><option value=\"male-female\">Man looking for women<\/option><option value=\"male-male\">Man looking for men\/option><option value=\"female-male\">Woman looking for men<\/option><option value=\"female-female\">Woman looking for women<\/option><\/select><\/div><div class=\"form-group\"><label for=\"province_id\">Location<\/label><select name=\"country_id\" class=\"form-control selectCountry\" id=\"select_country_id\" style=\"display: none\"><option value=\"13\" selected=\"\">UK<\/option><\/select><select name=\"province_id\" class=\"form-control\"><option value=\"476\">East Midlands - England<\/option><option value=\"477\">East Of England<\/option><option value=\"478\" selected>London<\/option><option value=\"479\">North East England<\/option><option value=\"480\">North West England<\/option><option value=\"481\">Northern Ireland<\/option><option value=\"482\">Scotland<\/option><option value=\"483\">South East England<\/option><option value=\"484\">South West England<\/option><option value=\"485\">Wales<\/option><option value=\"486\">West Midlands - England<\/option><option value=\"487\">Yorkshire &amp; The Humber - England<\/option><\/select><\/div><div id=\"getMessage\" class=\"getMessage\"><p class=\"boton\" style=\"margin-top:20px\"><button type=\"submit\" name=\"register\" class=\"btn\">JOIN NOW<\/button><\/p><\/div><\/div><\/form>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Afterwards, say what you mean<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>If you would like to meet again, a short message is enough: \u201cI enjoyed today. 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