Having a threesome is one of the most common sexual fantasies among both men and women. The famous menage à trois is generally associated with two women and one man, but, in reality, there are many more options than that. Many more. Do you want to have a threesome? Keep on reading.
A threesome is a sexual relationship with three people. The gender combinations of the threesome depend on the sez, gender and sexual orientation of the people involved. But it’s enough to say that there are as many different possible combinations as there are different types of people.
I want to have a threesome with my girlfriend/wife
A stable partner is someone you know through and through, it’s not like occasional sex, for which you need to check whether the person is actually who they say they are online. So I hope that you have chosen well.
I’m sure that the following thought has crossed your mind: “I would love to sleep with my wife and Marta at the same time”. Marta is of great importance in this scenario.
It depends on her whether everything will turn out well. But I will get back to that later.
Like I said, if you want to have a threesome with your girlfriend, first of all she will need to be an extrovert person with an open mind.
In other words, do not suggest it to your girlfriend if she is pathologically shy and introvert.
Anyway, as a piece of advice, if you are thinking about having a threesome and you can’t even bring it up to your girlfriend, maybe it’s time to break up.
How do I propose a threesome to my partner?
It needs to happen in the right moment. You know your partner better than anyone, but normally, festive atmospheres or very romantic or erotic occasions are the best times to propose this type of thing.
After a romantic anniversary dinner, for example, when the wine is still influencing your emotions.
If your girlfriend is very open-minded and you have no communication problems at all, you can skip the next couple of steps and directly propose having a threesome. Just accept whatever her response to your proposal is. It’s really that easy.
If you are not very sure how your proposal will go own and you don’t want to hurt your girlfriends feelings, there is a technique that never fails, but it does take time.
Step 1: Bring it up jokingly
The first thing you want to do is to mention the topic casually in a conversation. You can do this occasionally to test the waters, but only half-jokingly.
Every time the opportunity arises to joke about having a threesome, take it. The classic example is suggesting a very famous Hollywood actress as a third person in your threesome whilst you are watching a movie.
– “Honey, would you be down for a threesome with Scarlett Johansson?” That type of stuff.
If your partner isn’t stupid (and I’m sure she isn’t) she will get the insinuation you are making when you have made three or four jokes like this. By the way, don’t be impatient and let a few days or weeks pass in between your jokes.
Like I said, this tactic takes time.
On the bright side, it will prepare you and your partner for the next step, and if, for any reason the opportunity to have a threesome should arise, your girlfriend will already know that you are up for it, so the next move is completely up to her.
Step 2: The crazy night
This step consists of raising the question seriously when you are having a happy moment as a couple. When it is clear that you love each other very much and that nothing and nobody can break this harmony and, moreover, you are under the influence of alcohol and joy, you can make the suggestion it without problems.
I do want to be very clear about one thing: I am not saying that you have to use alcohol in order to have a threesome. And much less that you should use it to lower someone’s defences and get what you want. Apart from it being morally wrong, it’s also a crime.
What I mean is that if two adults are inhibited thanks to many things, but also thanks to alcohol, it is easier for this type of consensual proposal to go ahead.
What to do before and during a threesome
Alright, your girlfriend has said yes and you already have the best possible candidate in mind. Are you sure about that? How do you know that she/he is the best one?
The truth is that usually there are not a lot of options, so if the occasion presents itself and you and your partner both like the other person, then go ahead.
Is it best to know the other person?
That really depends on you, but in general, it’s not. If a friendship exists between you and the other person, problems can later present itself, problems that will not arise at all if you do it with a person you don’t know or a person you have recently met on a dating site like Shag.
It’s usually a good idea to go for something in between. Do you have any friend with benefits from the past? Maybe that could work…?
Safety first
If you are going to have a threesome you must use a condom. End of story.
Communication
Make sure to set clear boundaries before you start. For example, your partner may not want you to French kiss the third person.
You don’t need to discuss this with the third person, as having such a serious conversation before the act can really bring down the mood. Just be respectful and make sure to have open communication with him/her at all times. If they don’t like something, you need to make sure you immediately notice it and stop.
Whilst it is happening, you must have one thing clear: it is not easy to get the threesome to work well if you are only thinking about if it’s going well. Instead of thinking about what is happening and whether everyone involved is having a good time, just enjoy it. If sometimes sex between two people can – for many reasons – not go well, with three people this risk only increases.
But as long as you can laugh at yourself and your mistakes and learn from them, everything will be fine.
| Extremely important Make sure your partner wants to do it because she feels like doing it, not because she wants to please you. |
How to arrange a threesome
At this stage you have probably realised that porn is a complete and utter fiction if you compare it to reality. So forget about arranging a threesome in any place or at any time.
Nowadays you can only arrange threesomes in two places. In exchange clubs and on pages for meeting liberal people like Shag.
Of course, when you are going out partying in a nightclub you can probably also find someone who is willing to have a threesome with you and your partner, but that’s not usually the case.
I am referring to places where you will be sure to arrange a threesome.
The good thing about exchange cubs is that you can go there with your partner and everything will be arranged for you. Or almost everything.
Because the bad thing is that in these places there are usually twenty men for each woman.
So unless you are Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie, you will probably go home empty handed.
Nonetheless, on Shag there are thousands of people who clearly indicate their tastes and preferences up front. Moreover, you can narrow down your search as much as you want.
Are you looking for a woman who is willing to have a threesome in your city, or would you prefer someone who lives further away for some reason?
On Shag there are a lot of people like you and your girlfriend.
The best thing is that you can check it out for free.
Good luck. Although you probably don’t need it.
